Five Steps to Try When Caregiving Gets More Demanding

Caregiving can lull you into a false sense of security at times. You might be rolling along, thinking that everything is going swimmingly, and then suddenly realize that it’s all out of control. What do you do?

You’re Like a Frog in Boiling Water

The problem with being a caregiver sometimes is that you don’t always understand how quickly things can change for you. You might feel as if things are going along, just like usual, and then suddenly you hit a wall of overwhelm. The reality is that things have slowly been getting more overwhelming, but you haven’t been paying close attention. Kind of like that frog in boiling water, you suddenly feel in over your head. You need to check in with yourself more often.

Get a Handle on Current Needs

Take some time and assess what’s going on right now. Make some lists of what your senior needs and of what you need. You can start to see where you are missing out on some of what would make life and caregiving easier when you see things on paper. Ask yourself what’s different now than it was last month or six months ago.

Set Your Boundaries Well

Everyone has their own limits and boundaries. As a caregiver, you do, too. It’s just not always as obvious to you that you’re nearing your boundaries. What can’t you do for your senior? There may be some very specific situations in which you know you won’t be able to help. Those are your limits and you have to respect them.

Try Some Possible Answers

You understand more about the needs of yourself and your senior and you should have a better grip on your boundaries. Now, how do you deal with that? One solution is to hire home care providers. They can take over with care responsibilities that are beyond the scope of what you’re able to do right now. They can also help you to fill in other care gaps that you’re struggling to correct.

Anticipate Changes

The one thing that you can be sure of in life is that nothing stays the same forever. There are going to be changes that come your way in the coming weeks and months. That’s why it’s important to keep checking in with yourself so that you can avoid that boiling frog situation.

This isn’t a perfect solution. It’s about doing the best that you can with the situation that you have. Be good to yourself and remember that you’re doing the very best that you can.

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About Zack Demopoulos

Zack and Phyllis Demopoulos are the Owners of ComForcare Senior Services of Fairfield, NJ.

Whether it’s in business or in life, finding the right partner is vital to the success of any union.Fortunately, Zack and Phyllis Demopoulos have found the perfect counterparts in each other.After 21 years of marriage, the couple decided to join forces in a new way with ComForcare.Zack had over two decades in healthcare at Warner-Lambert and Pfizer, and Phyllis was a stay-at-home mom of three and former Estée Lauder trainer.Their strong family values and personal experience with helping relatives who required continuous assistance led them to a business
centered on providing top-notch care to those needing it most. ComForcare is committed to providing caregiving, resources and education to families in Northern Essex and Southern Passaic counties.